Updated: 3 days ago
Today in the Spatial metaverse MetaCoach gave a talk on surviving the holidays.
Lisbet Spatial, who is part of the Bridging Worlds group I am part of that host these events, not only MC'd the event, but also decided to transcribe and summarize the talk as Coach was speaking.
There is a chat function in Spatial, and by adding this transcription/summary to the chat, Lisbet enabled visitors from all different parts of the world to use the translate function to read what Coach was saying in their own language.
I was blown away not only by her ability, but also by the fact that once again I am aware how people from different cultures can meet, share experiences and share personal stories in the metaverse.
This inspired me to copy paste from the chat (because it will disappear in 24 hours) and share the transcription/summary here. It is such a valuable topic for all of us.
Here it is:
The trauma and stressors for the holidays can be the same no matter where we are in the world
The goal is to get through the holiday seasons and learn how to have great celebrations, minimize or eliminate the trauma and drama
You can't plan for everything, but you can prepare for some things, and this is what coach calls the survivor's guide
The first step of getting through the holidays: The first step of survival is don't manufacture it. Don't give in to that dreaded "Oh no" mindset
It's a slippery slope to have the "oh no, time to get ready for holidays” mindset
Who is coming? How much will it cost? How long will it last?
People dynamics play a big role
As a child, one doesn't know how much work the parents go through to make it happen
Everyone has a person in their family, that when they come to an event, they bring drama
Coach is talking about that one person who causes trauma or drama at a holiday celebration
He had a drunk uncle who would stumble around at the events
The children found it funny, the adults did not
But it all starts off with that first moment "Oh no, gotta get ready for the holidays”
The first thing in the survivors guide is - do not expect the negative and speak negativity into existence
This is where critical thinking can be useful
We can look at previous holiday events and identify what things happened that set the drama in motion. We can think about those things and put things in place and prepare our minds for what can happen (and probably will).
Coach's father had a conversation with the "drunk uncle" before the event one year. He asked him in advance to not come and "act a fool”
Coach was young and didn't know what was said on the other side of the phone, but he remembers a good, better, event that year.
Critical thiniking - identify what can cause the problems
Conversational intelligence to mitigate those problems and also speak to oneself about how to handle the situations
Emotional intelligence plays a role, too
Holiday seasons, people coming together can be traumatic. Maybe there is an empty seat because someone is no longer there.
Some families still set a place at the table if someone has passed away, to honour their memory
That kind of takes the challenge or sting away, because instead of mourning, people celebrated the life of the deceased family member
It changes things around, into a more positive approach.
In the USA, there is an extremely high level of substance abuse in the holidays
This is due to various reasons
They feel more celebratory, more free, do things they might not usually do
Sometimes substance abuse during the holidays ends in disaster. At a company that coach worked, they would fill in a blank "termination of contract form" in advance, because they knew someone would mess up at the holiday function.
If you are alone, the sadness during holiday season can be overwhelming
Coach advises that one finds community
One doesn’t have to do it alone
It seems to be magnified (the loneliness) during the holidays
Coach's family used to invite people over who did not have families
When Coach's mother passed away, so many people that came to their home during the holidays attended her funeral and loved her
One part of the survivor's guide is to reach out to people who don't have family
Coach is speaking about his childhood
His mother used to make sure everything was perfect
Until she decided not to stress herself out, but rather focus on enjoying the festivities
Tip- You don't have to strive for perfection
Don't stress yourself out
Coach is talking about families with members who have special needs
It is important to remember these families, because often they don’t attend, the person with special needs is not accommodated
Tip- If you are hosting an event, keep this in mind and try to accommodate them if you can
Coach speaks about his neighbour's autistic child
His mother invited them over and spent time with the child so that the mom could relax
Somebody cared enough to give the mother a moment of freedom. Coach remembers these things that his mother did growing up
These things help him be sensitive to people around him
If you are preparing an event, consider the people who would not come because of special needs. You can reach out and say "what can i do so that you can be here?”
Small gestures like that are huge and can change the dynamics of someone's holidays and life
That falls under critical thinking
It’s part of emotional intelligence
When we employ these things, use these approaches, imagine how much better holiday celebrations could be
We can apply this to every day life, not just in the holidays
One of coach's mottos is "a winning mindset”
He believes that there are things that we can do every day to make life easier to decrease the trauma and the drama
We can be thankful for things that we go through
Each one of us has the power and the ability to be a game changer in somebody's life.
How do I make this holiday season better? For myself, but also for those around me.
When we take that winning mindset, we start to punch trauma and drama in the gut.
We prepare to move forward in a positive way
This counteracts the trauma and drama
On to the next point in the survivor's guide:
Many people overdo it financially during the holiday season
Coach tells a story of a man who bought a big gift for his partner to make up for all his mistakes during the year
He got himself into debt
He gave her the gift
But she gave him divorce papers
And gave him the gift back
The man had thought that an expensive gift (that he could not afford) would solve his problems
Sometimes parents buy expensive gifts for their kids because when they grew up, they did not have it
We must think: What makes sense?
What really matters?
What will not hurt me in the long run?
If we think about those things, it changes our mindset
Changes how much we spend money during the holidays, and what we spend it on
The goal is to get through the holidays and through the trauma and drama, but also to get through it without debt!!!
Coach suggests that people prepare their heart and mind so that when the time comes to celebrate, we have things in place to minimize the problems during the holidays
The focus can be on coming together as family and friends, instead of buying things for each other
Coach talks about an advert in the USA about the Lexus car
They give each other keys to a Lexus car and the advert says "It's the gift to remember”
This commercial can make people feel like a loser if they cannot do that
It's a crazy example from TV. but many people feel this way, even about smaller things
Many people collect for the needy during the holidays, coach suggests doing it all year long
"If I am doing good all year long it becomes easier to do good during the hoildays”
We can start the survivor's guide at the beginning of the year already with a winning mindset, and touch the people around us
The people are the ones that matter
The gifts are temporary, the relationships matter
A closing remark by coach:
He wants to challenge everyone here today
Think about the one person in your life that you may need to repair a relationship with.
What conversation do I need to have with that person?
What emotional intelligence do i need to use? What conversational intelligence do I need to use?
How do I make it right? How do I squash the trauma, drama, how do I have a winning mindset.
(After sharing this blog post, it has now been translated into Japanese by Maro Dori, another member of the Bridging Worlds team. It can be read in Japanese here)
The theme for the 11th edition of the mObgraphia Awards held in Brazil is “ANCESTRAL FUTURE”. The winning works, shown in the Museum of Image and Sound in São Paolo, highlight the value of knowledge acquired in the past.
This contest aimed to stimulate image production through mobile platforms (mobgraphy) in order to create a dialogue about this new form of communication through mobile photography.
Using the productive and creative features of current technologies, entrants were asked to depict how traditions can be valuable when looking to the future. A connection was proposed between cultural roots and the values passed down by previous generations, and present and future life.
Looking at the speed of contemporary society, participants were asked to reflect on ancestral heritage that has been preserved.
The exhibition “ANCESTRAL FUTURE" seeks to reconcile the past and the present, valuing traditional knowledge as a guide for overcoming current challenges in society, to lead to the creation of a more sustainable, ethical, moral, and balanced future.
I entered the Digital Art category of this Mobile Photo Festival 2024. Out of the many images entered, these were narrowed down to ten. Then the final five were announced with the knowledge that these were the works that would be exhibited.
At the opening ceremony the winners of each category were announced. I am truly honoured and excited to announce that my entry “Strength” was chosen as the winner of the “Arte Digital” category.
This year mObgraphia entered the metaverse, and so although I was unable to attend the event in São Paolo, I was able to watch the event shown live in Art CIty in the Spatial metaverse and celebrate with friends from all over the world.
Updated: Mar 26
Maro Dori Sky Palace is one of the architectural wonders of the Spatial Metaverse. This celestial gallery showcases the imaginary, noble bird Maro Dori, a creation of a special, young Japanese artist Michiko, paired with the captivating, seasonal Kyoto photos of Fumio Kojima. The result is a blend of tradition and modernity.
This beautiful, virtual environment features floating bridges that allow users to walk through a sequence of gallery spaces and connect with others along the way.
Imagine my excitement when I was invited to have a solo exhibition in one of the galleries.
Many of you know that I love architecture and spent many years photographing the architecture of Dubai, so to be invited to exhibit in this architecturally unique Japanese virtual space was very special.
Because of the many floating bridges in the space and because I believe that architecture is in itself a bridge, as it has the ability to move people emotionally, I was inspired to call this exhibition, “Bridging Worlds”.
My artworks in this exhibition feature people from various parts of the world, and invite us to walk in the shoes of those who have worldviews different to our own. We are invited to bridge our differences and instead realize our similarities and our interconnectedness..
The figures in the artworks invite us to follow them and move along a bridge from the outer world to the inner world of contemplation. As much as there is a sense of stillness in movement in the artworks, there is also a sense of movement into stillness.
The exhibition is also a celebration of the many bridges that I have already crossed on my explorations in the metaverse.
My collaboration with the Japanese community in Spatial has enabled us to bridge language barriers by researching and discovering modern speech to text technology.
As a result of implementing this technology which facilitates communication, people who are hard of hearing are now able to feel fully included in the metaverse. Different speaking communities in the metaverse are also communicating more easily with each other, uniting us all.
Time zones are no longer a barrier as the metaverse has encouraged us to bridge this challenge.
Many of our artworks are both physical and digital, the metaverse being the bridge to the phygital.
Someone expressed to me recently that the metaverse is a bridge which enables them to be both social in the virtual realm and yet solitary in the physical realm at the same time.
As we continue to connect in the metaverse we are building bridges. Dr Judi Harris put it so beautifully:
“When I see cyberspace, I see bridges. Perhaps I should say I see people, building bridges in cyberspace. Not bridges of steel, not even electronic bridges, but bridges of ideas that span the miles of physical space, cross the generations and connect people who would otherwise be unlikely ever to meet.”
You, dear reader, are invited to join me in the Maro Dori Sky Palace and to cross bridges you had not before thought were possible.
Bridging Worlds: 1 April 2024 - 31 May 2024
A Japanese version of this blog post has been published here.
There will be a cherry blossom viewing and exhibition celebration on 1 April 2024 at 10PM JST/9AM EST/3PM CET in Ambient Canvas. Experience a Japanese style hangout with Koto music, before joining me on a journey to "Bridging Worlds".